A lot of people put off starting therapy not because they don’t want help, but because they’re not quite sure what they’re walking into. Will they be expected to talk about their whole life history? Will it feel clinical and cold? What if they don’t know what to say? These are entirely understandable concerns and […]
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You’ve worked hard to get where you are. So why does it still feel like you don’t quite belong — or that it’s only a matter of time before people find you out? If that question resonates, you’re not alone. Imposter syndrome is one of the most common things I work with as a therapist,
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You’ve read the email four times. It’s fine, and you know it’s fine. And yet – one more read, just to be sure. This is what perfectionistic checking feels like from the inside. It’s not about thoroughness, or diligence, but it’s a kind of compulsion that reason can’t quite reach. The task is done and
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When people come to therapy for imposter feelings, they usually want to jump straight to the solution. How do I stop feeling this way? How can I finally feel confident? It’s completely understandable, because feeling like a fraud is exhausting. But we can’t change what we don’t yet understand, and that’s why the first step
We all know what it’s like to wake up to a grey, rainy morning. You may not like what you find when you open the curtains, but you also recognise there’s not much you can do about it. You don’t control the weather. You only control what you do when it’s raining. You might pull
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We all know what it’s like to get caught up in a storm of thoughts and feelings. Maybe it’s the tension before a big meeting, the anxiety on the train into work, or that familiar voice telling you “you’re not good enough for this.” When a wave like that hits, most of us do one
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