Perfectionism has the best public image of any psychological pattern I know. Say it in a job interview and it counts as a strength. “I’m a bit of a perfectionist” is the humble-brag we’re all allowed. And often there’s something real behind it: many perfectionists genuinely care about their work and hold themselves to a […]
Perfectionism Isn’t High Standards. It’s Fear With Good PR. Read More »
You’ve got the presentation next week, so you start preparing. Sensible enough. But somewhere along the way, preparing tips into something else. You rehearse it again. You rewrite the slides a fourth time. You script the answers to questions nobody may ask. And the odd thing is that the more you prepare, the less ready
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You replay the conversation on the drive home. You’re mid-email when the doubt arrives. You lie awake at 2am with a mind that won’t switch off, and somewhere along the way you’ve concluded that you think too much. Here’s something I find myself explaining in the therapy room more often than almost anything else, because
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The feedback is good. The promotion happened. The work keeps landing well. So why is there still a voice insisting that sooner or later, someone is going to realise you don’t belong here? If you live with that voice, you’ve probably tried to reason with it. You’ve listed your qualifications, replayed the successes, and somehow
Imposter Syndrome Is a Prediction – Your Track Record Is the Evidence Read More »
A lot of people put off starting therapy not because they don’t want help, but because they’re not quite sure what they’re walking into. Will they be expected to talk about their whole life history? Will it feel clinical and cold? What if they don’t know what to say? These are entirely understandable concerns and
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You’ve worked hard to get where you are. So why does it still feel like you don’t quite belong — or that it’s only a matter of time before people find you out? If that question resonates, you’re not alone. Imposter syndrome is one of the most common things I work with as a therapist,
What is Imposter Syndrome? A Therapist Explains Read More »