The feedback is good. The promotion happened. The work keeps landing well. So why is there still a voice insisting that sooner or later, someone is going to realise you don’t belong here? If you live with that voice, you’ve probably tried to reason with it. You’ve listed your qualifications, replayed the successes, and somehow […]
Imposter Syndrome Is a Prediction – Your Track Record Is the Evidence Read More »
Part of the Patterns that keep you Stuck Series Introduction We often think that avoidance looks like procrastination, for example: Scrolling instead of working.Watching Netflix instead of starting the work.Putting things off. But in therapy, I see something much subtler, and far more common among high achievers. People aren’t avoiding work, rather they’re avoiding discomfort.
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Most people think reassurance is helpful. And in one sense, it is – for a moment. You ask a colleague if the email sounds okay, or check whether the presentation landed well, and the anxiety drops. The tension eases., and you can breathe again. The problem is that the relief never lasts. Within hours, sometimes
Most high-achieving professionals who struggle to delegate will tell you it’s because it’s quicker to do things themselves, or because they don’t want to overload their team, and on the surface, that sounds entirely reasonable – even responsible. But when you look more closely, the reluctance to delegate is rarely really about efficiency or consideration
Not Delegating: Why High Achievers Struggle to Let Go (And How It Keeps Them Stuck) Read More »
People-pleasing is one of the most common patterns driving anxiety, burnout, and imposter feelings. This blog explains why high achievers struggle to say “no,” how over-accommodation keeps them stuck, and how therapy helps build healthier boundaries. Introduction If you’re someone who quietly takes on more than you can handle, avoids disappointing others, softens your opinions,
People-Pleasing & Over-Accommodation: Why High Achievers Struggle to Say “No” Read More »
You’ve read the email four times. It’s fine, and you know it’s fine. And yet – one more read, just to be sure. This is what perfectionistic checking feels like from the inside. It’s not about thoroughness, or diligence, but it’s a kind of compulsion that reason can’t quite reach. The task is done and
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