Have you ever walked through the “nothing to declare” channel at an airport, done absolutely nothing wrong, and still felt a wave of guilt as though you were smuggling something? Nothing in your bag, nothing on your conscience, and yet there’s the feeling, insisting you’ve been caught. That little moment is one of the most […]
Feelings Are Valid, but Not Always True or Helpful Read More »
When anxiety or self-doubt takes hold, it can feel like one big, formless wave that arrives and sweeps you along. But if you slow it down, it isn’t formless at all. Everything that happens is happening in one of six specific places, and every skill worth learning targets one of them. I use this map
The Six-Area Framework: Where Anxiety Actually Gets You Stuck Read More »
You replay the conversation on the drive home. You’re mid-email when the doubt arrives. You lie awake at 2am with a mind that won’t switch off, and somewhere along the way you’ve concluded that you think too much. Here’s something I find myself explaining in the therapy room more often than almost anything else, because
Thoughts vs Thinking: The Difference Nobody Explains Read More »
Why do I feel anxious all the time when nothing is actually wrong? It’s one of the questions I hear most often, usually from people who have already spent years trying to answer it themselves. If that’s you, you’ve probably tried the obvious things. You’ve told yourself to calm down and reasoned through why
Your Anxiety Means Well, but It Keeps Getting It Wrong Read More »
The feedback is good. The promotion happened. The work keeps landing well. So why is there still a voice insisting that sooner or later, someone is going to realise you don’t belong here? If you live with that voice, you’ve probably tried to reason with it. You’ve listed your qualifications, replayed the successes, and somehow
Imposter Syndrome Is a Prediction – Your Track Record Is the Evidence Read More »
You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve asked the people you trust – maybe more than once. So why, after all that advice, do you still not know what to do? If that question lands, you’re in good company. Many of the people I work with are intelligent, capable, and conscientious. They
Trust Your Experience: Why Your Life Knows More Than Your Mind Does Read More »