Have you ever walked through the “nothing to declare” channel at an airport, done absolutely nothing wrong, and still felt a wave of guilt as though you were smuggling something? Nothing in your bag, nothing on your conscience, and yet there’s the feeling, insisting you’ve been caught. That little moment is one of the most […]
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When anxiety or self-doubt takes hold, it can feel like one big, formless wave that arrives and sweeps you along. But if you slow it down, it isn’t formless at all. Everything that happens is happening in one of six specific places, and every skill worth learning targets one of them. I use this map
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You replay the conversation on the drive home. You’re mid-email when the doubt arrives. You lie awake at 2am with a mind that won’t switch off, and somewhere along the way you’ve concluded that you think too much. Here’s something I find myself explaining in the therapy room more often than almost anything else, because
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Uncertainty Isn’t the Enemy — But Our Response to It Can Be If you find yourself stuck in overthinking, worrying about what others might think, or endlessly tweaking your work so it feels “just right,” you’re not alone. These are common experiences for people who struggle with self-doubt, anxiety, and imposter syndrome – and they
Self-Compassion & Acceptance: Key Ingredients in Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Introduction Imposter syndrome often shows up like a persistent inner critic. You’ve worked hard, earned your place, and yet there’s that lingering thought: “What if I’m not actually good enough?” It can feel like you’re one step away from being exposed as a fraud even when
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The Three Circles: Understanding the Emotional Systems Behind Imposter Syndrome When you’re caught in the grip of imposter syndrome, it can feel like a constant battle in your mind — the fear of being exposed, the pressure to prove yourself, the struggle to feel calm or confident. Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) offers a helpful way
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