You’ve achieved a lot — but it rarely feels that way.
Instead of pride, there’s pressure.
Instead of confidence, there’s constant second-guessing.
So, you work harder. You push through. You do more — preparing, perfecting, trying to cover every angle just in case something slips through the cracks.
But even when things go well, that relief is short-lived.
Because the next task brings it all back:
“Did I get it right?”
“What if they think I don’t know what I’m doing?”
“What if I’ve missed something?”
And round you go again.
The Hidden Cost of Self-Doubt.
This kind of self-doubt is more than just a passing worry — it runs deep.
It shows up in the overthinking, the endless preparation, the reluctance to put yourself forward.
It takes up your evenings and weekends. It eats away at your energy and peace of mind.
It chips away at your confidence even when, from the outside, you're doing just fine.
The hard truth?
You’re not struggling because you’re not capable.
You’re struggling because of how you’re responding to the self-doubt.
And the way you’re trying to fix it — by working harder, doing more, getting everything just right — is actually feeding the cycle.
Why More Effort Isn’t the Answer
If you’ve found yourself thinking, “I just need to try harder” — you're not alone.
That’s the default setting for so many high-achieving people. It’s what’s helped you succeed.
But it’s also what's keeping you stuck.
Trying to outperform your self-doubt only gives it more power.
Each time you delay sending that email, triple-check your work, or avoid speaking up — you’re reinforcing the idea that it’s not safe to trust yourself.
And that voice — the one that says “you’re not good enough,” “they’ll find you out,” “you’re going to get it wrong” — keeps getting louder.
It’s like being in a tug of war. You’re pulling with all your strength, hoping to win…
But what if the solution isn’t to pull harder?
What if it’s to drop the rope?
There’s a Different Way
Self-doubt isn’t something to defeat. It’s something to understand.
And it’s something you can learn to respond to differently.
In therapy, I help people get curious about their self-doubt — not just why it’s there, but how they’re relating to it.
We explore the patterns that are keeping them stuck: perfectionism, avoidance, overpreparing, people-pleasing…
And we start to build new ways of responding to the self-doubt, learning how to drop the rope and not engage in the struggle, being able to develop self-trust, a new perspective, and a shift to focusing onto what really matters to them.
Not by pretending the doubt isn’t there, but by learning how to move forward even when it is.
Ready to Stop Letting Self-Doubt Run the Show?
If you’re tired of feeling like you’re one mistake away from being exposed…
If you’re exhausted by the constant pressure to prove yourself…
If you're ready to start building a steadier, more confident way forward —
I can help.
Book a free consultation call and take the first step.