The Soloist Imposter This is the third post in the series looking at the one of the five patterns of Imposter Syndrome identified by Dr. Valerie Young. In the previous two posts we looked at the Perfectionist Imposter, and then the Expert Imposter. For others, imposter syndrome isn’t about being perfect or knowing everything, it’s […]
The Soloist Imposter: Why Asking for Help Feels Like Failure Read More »
Imposter syndrome doesn’t show up in the same way for everyone. For some it shows up through perfectionism and in my previous blogpost I wrote about the Perfectionist Imposter (click here to read). For others it can show up as expertise and the belief that you should always know more, have all the answers, and
The Expert Imposter: When You Feel You Should Already Know Everything Read More »
In an earlier blog post I wrote about the 5 different types of imposter syndrome as defined by Dr. Valerie Young. Click here to read. In this post I write about one of those types in more detail – The Perfectionist Imposter. The Perfectionist Imposter Imposter syndrome shows up in different ways for different people.
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When self-doubt and anxiety are loud, the instinct is usually to try to quiet them down. To think things through more carefully, prepare more thoroughly, seek reassurance, or wait until the feelings settle before moving forward. These responses make complete sense. They’re also, as most people who’ve tried them will recognise, not particularly reliable. The
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We all know what it’s like to wake up to a grey, rainy morning. You may not like what you find when you open the curtains, but you also recognise there’s not much you can do about it. You don’t control the weather. You only control what you do when it’s raining. You might pull
Emotions Are Like the Weather: Why Fighting Feelings Keeps You Stuck Read More »
Most of us are experts at struggling with our own minds.When anxiety or self-doubt shows up, our instinct is to push it away, silence it, or out-think it. And for a moment, it might feel like it works, but very quickly, the doubts creep back in, often louder than before. This is what keeps many
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