January 2026

Part of the Patterns that keep you Stuck Series Introduction We often think that avoidance looks like procrastination, for example: Scrolling instead of working.Watching Netflix instead of starting the work.Putting things off. But in therapy, I see something much subtler, and far more common among high achievers. People aren’t avoiding work, rather they’re avoiding discomfort. […]

(Part of the series: Patterns That Keep You Stuck) Introduction Most people think reassurance is helpful. After all, who wouldn’t want to hear: “You’re doing fine.” “That was good.” “You haven’t messed this up.” “You’re overthinking it.” “Don’t worry – it’s okay.” For a moment, reassurance works.Anxiety drops.The mind settles.The tension eases. But if reassurance

Part of the series: Patterns That Keep You Stuck Introduction Many high-achieving professionals tell me they don’t delegate because it’s “quicker to do it themselves” or because they “don’t want to overload others.” On the surface, that sounds reasonable, even quite responsible, however if we look more closely, not delegating is rarely about efficiency or